Tag: Widows

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God’s favorites.

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”One day the widow of a member of the group of prophets came to Elisha and cried out, “My husband who served you is dead, and you know how he feared the Lord. But now a creditor has come, threatening to take my two sons as slaves.” “What can I do to help you?” Elisha asked. “Tell me, what do you have in the house?” “Nothing at all, except a flask of olive oil,” she replied. And Elisha said, “Borrow as many empty jars as you can from your friends and neighbors. Then go into your house with your sons and shut the door behind you. Pour olive oil from your flask into the jars, setting each one aside when it is filled.” ‭‭2 Kings‬ ‭4‬:‭1‬-‭4‬ ‭NLT‬‬

There are those in our society that are in need and should receive special attention and care. These folks existed in ancient days and they still struggle today. They are widows and orphans. Because God’s heart always leans to the least among us, he expects that we will do the same.

In the U.S. from 2022, there were approximately 11.48 million widowed women and 3.7 million widowed men in the United States, the average age is 59! The word “widow” is sited 80 times from the Old and New Testament. Today’s “orphan” would be our children lingering in foster care. In 2022, approximately 368,530 children were in foster care in the United States. Which is down from 400,000 just 10 years ago.

Here in Kings, with the story of the needy widow, Elisha responds to her desperation by walking her and her sons through a miracle rather than just giving her money. In fact, through this miracle, God allowed this widow to become an entrepreneur, with a sustainable income for her future. That’s a compounded interest miracle!

Kings tells us that this widow’s husband was a part of Elisha’s School of the Prophets, and the widow reminds him that her husband feared the Lord! Since Elisha figured out that this widow was willing to speak up and ask, he knew he could put this skillset, this gift to work! He first asks what she has. She responds with, “I’ve only got one flask of oil.” Olive oil, in ancient days was used for just about everything, far more than it is today. If you had a grove of olive trees, you had a sustainable income for life, because oil was a highly needed commodity.

Next, Elisha puts her to work ASKING. “Go and borrow as many empty jars as you can.” Big jars, little jars, used jars and new ones – who knows what her friends and neighbors let her “borrow” knowing they were helping her out.

Elisha then tells her, “go into your house with your sons.” My wife, Robin, points out the highlight of the miracle about to take place is the fact that her sons were able to experience God’s power and provision right alongside their mother. She begins to pour from her only oil jar. She fills up one jar, then another, and another. The tension rises when the mother discovers they are out of jars, “Soon every container was full to the brim! “Bring me another jar,” she said to one of her sons. “There aren’t any more!” he told her. And then the olive oil stopped flowing.” (4‬:‭6‬) All the jars were now filled!

She tells Elisha what happened, expecting that he would want to know or maybe even receive part of the miraculous oil himself. Elisha tells her to sell the oil to pay the debt and keep the rest to live on! She receives a miracle and an inheritance check from God!

Caring for widows or children of foster care doesn’t mean we just hand over a bunch of money. God could have made it rain coins from the sky if Elisha asked him to. Working with both widows and children formerly in foster care means helping them understand their own gifts and talents and teach them to become self sufficient is incredibly important. Both still need believers to pray and seek God for miracles on their behalf. But helping them see their worth and value after death, abandonment or abuse is critical for their mental and spiritual well being! It’s money leveraged to teach and get them moving in the right direction. Many of the widows that I have known were properly cared for through planning before their husband’s death. Serving both widows and children of foster care requires building trust – love must be earned before it’s honored! Being involved in their lives becomes a great way to redirect and inspire them to keep going, and discovering what God will do through their lives even after a difficult season of loss. It is a joy, privilege and honor to serve the folks that God considers most valuable because of loss. When we serve widows and children of foster care, we are blessing some of God’s favorites!

Prayer

​Dad,
I enjoy seeing what you love and learning to love it as well. And I know you love widows and orphans. You see their great needs and hear their cries for help. Thank you for enlisting us to share in the joy of praying for, blessing and caring for those you deeply love.

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Young pastor, old people.

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“But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers. A widow who is put on the list for support must be a woman who is at least sixty years old and was faithful to her husband. She must be well respected by everyone because of the good she has done. Has she brought up her children well? Has she been kind to strangers and served other believers humbly? Has she helped those who are in trouble? Has she always been ready to do good?” ‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭5‬:‭8‬-‭10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The Apostle Paul spends a lot of written real estate on how to treat each other – especially here in Timothy concerning elders and widows. Paul gets very specific, even detailing a special care list for those who qualify. The Jewish culture always had a strong family-oriented system of care even though some of the religious leaders created a loophole and were able to put money into a special temple account (Corban) rather than going towards their own elderly parents. Jesus shamed that idea in Matthew 15.

What does senior or widow care have to do with pastoring a church? It’s actually a huge part of pastoral responsibility, unless you’re dodgy as a startup church 😇. It is interesting that this area of specific ministry has exploded with the extraordinary extension of life expectancy over the past 50 years. Now, seniors are living well into their 90’s and beyond! Multi-generational churches are struggling to meet the tension of both geriatric pastoral care alongside early childhood care for couples in their thirties. Retirement and funerals along with baby deductions and birthdays are happening almost every month!

Back to widows – Paul has the hutzpah to write about the qualities and qualifications on getting on the widow list! And, it is obviously only for widows, not widowers. A widow has to be at least 60 (extreme life expectancy of that day). She had to seen as faithful to her husband. Well respected by everyone – because of the good she has done! Paul completely expected every godly widow to have a calling of serving, even through loss, grief and complete change of life status. Has had to raise her children well, kind to strangers and served believers in all humility. Helped those in trouble. And, always been ready to do good. This sounds like a full time job with no pay, but massive benefits from God! Paul writes to Timothy as though this was a widow’s, “job portfolio.” And you can bet that when Timothy was sent to pastor the Ephesian’s church, this was a huge part of his job and calling.

Timothy pastored that church until his death at 80 years old! Paul’s letters to Timothy are remarkable because he is writing about a young pastor’s own confidence in their calling as well as giving him the tools for leading a church that had gone through conflict, resulting in disunity. This idea of leading in a multigenerational church can and should happen. Yet, the caveat seems to be the willingness for the elderly to be led by a young pastor AND the willingness for the young pastor to be patient and caring for those who have experienced life and gone through trying times. Church plants are fantastic, but rarely have the elderly, the seniors or super-seniors in the body of Christ. Old churches, who were once a startup, have struggled to change and reinvent themselves to the point where they are purposely bridging and building into the lives of littles, youth and young families. Paul mentored Timothy when he was likely a young adult. That allowed Timothy to become a Bishop and to stay in one local church to give his life for the sake of the gospel in Ephesus.

Prayer

​Dad,
I believe in Your Church! I believe in life-long commitments in relationships within the local church. My heart has always been towards both loving and honoring the elderly as well as nurturing and mentoring young children, youth, singles and families. I believe that I am called to help bridge generational gaps that have become more divisive than they should be. As we see enormous change and uncertainty in the Church, help us keep our eyes on you, not on the past. Keep our hearts tender and our minds sharp, open and obedient to Your will, not our own. Amen.