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Struggling with a mixed-marriage.

Reading Time: 4 minutes

Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh? Why did she say, ‘Can an old woman like me have a baby?’ Is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son.” Sarah was afraid, so she denied it, saying, “I didn’t laugh.” But the Lord said, “No, you did laugh.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭18‬:‭13‬-‭15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

It is clear that the amazing story of Abram and Sarai had deep personal struggles in their marriage because they were not equal in the one of the most important, spiritual values as a couple. They were not equal in their faith!

In the beginning of their relationship they were both lacking a general sense that God is real and wanted to lead them, and bless them. Right at the start of their marriage they discovered Sarai was barren (‭‭Genesis‬ ‭11‬:‭30‬). That will rock any couple that desires to have children.

God directly speaks to Abram and tells him to leave, but does not tell him exactly where to go. Abram’s faith grows and he obeys (Genesis‬ ‭12‬:‭1‬-‭3‬). Arriving at each new city, Abram builds an altar and dedicates it to God.

Abram’s faith wavers when it comes to his beautiful bride, Sarai. Approaching Egypt he tells Sarai, please tell them you are my sister, fearing they will kill him and take his wife and possessions ‭‭(Genesis‬ ‭12‬:‭13‬). The Pharaoh of Egypt thought she was so hot, he took her into his own concubine and gave Abram a massive amount of gifts (animals and servants). God sent plagues on Pharaoh and he figured out that Abram lied about Sarai being his wife, not his sister (Genesis‬ ‭12‬:‭17‬)!

Later, arriving in Canaan, God again speaks to Abram reassuring him of the promise to bless him (‭‭Genesis‬ ‭13‬:‭14‬-‭17‬). Abram’s faith grows again. After rescuing his nephew Lot from a kidnapping, he meets with a mysterious man named Melchizedek, a “priest unto God.” Oddly, Abram gives Melchizedek a tithe, a tenth of all Abram had captured while saving Lot (Genesis‬ ‭14‬:‭20‬). Now his generosity grows as does his faith.

Again, God visits Abram in a vision, promising him a flesh and blood heir, a son and it will NOT be an adopted servant (Genesis‬ ‭15‬:‭4‬). Abram believes God and the declares him righteous because of his faith (Genesis‬ ‭15‬:‭6‬). But Abram’s faith wavers when it comes to believing God about this promise of inheriting the land as far as his eyes could see. so God makes a permanent blood-pact, or covenant with Abram, guaranteeing God’s own life as collateral (Genesis‬ ‭15‬:‭18‬). Just think about how many times God spoke directly to Abram and how many times he repeated His promises to him! Multiple times! Abram’s faith was growing, through struggles of doubt, but also through reassurance of fulfillment. Abram’s faith was soaring, but Sarai’s was SHRINKING!

By the time we get to Genesis 16, Sarai couldn’t stand it anymore. The couple was wildly wealthy in land, animals and servants, but there was no heir to secure their future! Sarai convinces Abram to take their future into his own hands by controlling their own destiny – take their Egyptian servant named Hagar and produce and heir! “So Abram had sexual relations with Hagar, and she became pregnant. But when Hagar knew she was pregnant, she began to treat her mistress, Sarai, with contempt” (Genesis‬ ‭16‬:‭1‬-‭4‬). What a mess! Sarai in her pain and frustration blames Abram -“This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!” (Genesis‬ ‭16‬:‭5). Ishmael is born but he and the mother were kicked out of the family, left to wander the desert where God saves them. This created a permanent rift between the Jews and the Arabs that still exist today!

God continues to speak to Abram, changing his name to Abraham and reaffirming His promises. God introduces another physical, contractual reminder to Abraham – circumcision, the cutting of flesh of foreskin for all males (Genesis‬ ‭17‬:‭10‬-‭13‬). God also changes Sarai’s name to Sarah, preparing her to receive the promised heir as well. Just a note, when Abraham heard God tell him the promise was still valid, even though he was 100 years old, and Sarah was 90, he laughed in disbelief (Genesis‬ ‭17‬:‭17‬). A year later Ishmael was born. And God’s promise became a reality. Ishmael became the father of twelve princes, and God made him into a great nation.

The point, God met with and personally spoke with Abraham multiple times and each time his faith grew. Abraham learned faith, it did not come to him naturally! Sarah did not have any of those personal experiences with God. She only heard about the promises from her husband, Abraham. Abraham’s faith journey was deliberate, Sarah’s was difficult.

This verse above sums it up well for this mixed marriage of spirituality, Sarah laughed because she struggled in her faith, and she lied about laughing because she was afraid! She wasn’t just afraid of being caught, laughing at the Lord’s promise, she was afraid to believe, afraid to have faith because she had lived focused on her fears and her decision to take control of her own destiny – convincing Abram to have sex with their young maidservant. Sarah’s laugh was a bitter reminder of how hard it is to believe God at his word!

Prayer

​Dad,
Faith is a serious thing with you! Believing you, trusting you, is paramount and vital to our relationship with you. Abraham believed and you saw it as righteousness! When I believe it is still seen as righteousness. Faith pleases you. It is hard for us to have that unseen, often unfelt leap to trust you. Yet, you know it is what makes this whole journey possible. And, it’s not just saying we believe, it’s living in such a way that proves that we trust you. I believe, I trust you. Thank you for your Word that reminds me and challenges me to live in that faith relationship with you! Amen.

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God chooses outliers.

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”The Lord had said to Abram, “Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father’s family, and go to the land that I will show you. I will make you into a great nation. I will bless you and make you famous, and you will be a blessing to others. I will bless those who bless you and curse those who treat you with contempt. All the families on earth will be blessed through you.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭12‬:‭1‬-‭3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Just to be transparent. These exact verses came up a year ago, but I have recently been in a sermon series called, “Stepping into God’s Story,” so I’ve been marinating in Abram’s call all week. I’m copying over some discoveries from my notes, because it is absolutely fascinating to see how God chooses and who He chooses to allow them to partner with Him to save humanity. Here’s what we know about Abram…

▫️His dad was an idol worshiper. The Bible confirms that his father, Terah, was an idolater, worshiping other gods (Joshua 24:2)
▫️ He was considered to be a pagan, a non-God or multi-god believer.
▫️ God pursues him, speaking to him, promises are made.
▫️ At 75 years old – he listens, believes, and obeys God.
▫️ Abram was wealthy.
▫️ Sarai was stunningly beautiful, but barren, she could not have children.

And even though God reminds Abram several times that He will keep His promises, Abram still has a lot of questions. He BELIEVES, but tries to figure out how the promise could be fulfilled because he and Sarai were barren and old! Abram asks God how it will happen!

Maybe you were taught or believed that you could not ask God questions. Maybe you were taught that questions equal doubt or disbelief. I am here to tell you – that’s just not true. Here we have the most famous, ancient patriarch of Judaism asking God a lot of questions! Now, I realize, God did not answer him with specifics, but continued to reinforce His promise and His ability to fulfill that promise. It’s almost a comical dance that takes place when Abram asks about his future kids, God says “look at the stars, count them – that’s how many kids you’ll have.” God didn’t give details He gave an object lesson in truth and trust! Isn’t that beautifully FRUSTRATING! We want details, God just says, “TRUST ME.” Faith over form! Let God handle the details. Thats hard for us as “checklist,” scheduled, calendared people! We want to control the details and the timeline, but that is not our job. Our job is to believe and obey!

Abram and Sarai get themselves in the biggest mess by trying to circumvent or help God with His plans! Sarai gets weary of waiting, gives up on God’s plan, and makes her own. She convinces Abram to use their slave girl as a surrogate to produce an heir. The Ishmael/Isaac story is one of the most famous feudal fiascos of all time! And, we are STILL paying the price for that decision thousands of years ago.

A couple of things we can learn from all this: 1. God often chooses the least likely people to accomplish His purposes. Maybe God is calling you to listen, obey and follow, no matter where He leads. 2. God makes and keeps His promises. Through the Holy Spirit, God wants us to listen for His voice, His leading. God wants us to believe and have faith in Him. God wants us to obey and follow him, even if no one else does.

Prayer

God,
As I read Your living Word, sometimes I have to remind myself that life is, or can be, very simple. By listening, believing and obeying – it becomes so uncomplicated. Not easy, but simple. Faith is difficult but also very freeing. Looking back on my life I know this to be true because you chose me – the outlier, the underdog, the underperforming nobody. This alone brings gratefulness and joy. It brings a humble confidence, not at all in myself, but in you. It also has me convinced, if you can do this wondrous work in my life, you can do it through anyone! It has not been easy, but it has been good, because you are good. Amen.

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Last laugh.

Reading Time: 3 minutes

“When the food was ready, Abraham took some yogurt and milk and the roasted meat, and he served it to the men. As they ate, Abraham waited on them in the shade of the trees. “Where is Sarah, your wife?” the visitors asked. “She’s inside the tent,” Abraham replied. Then one of them said, “I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!” Sarah was listening to this conversation from the tent. Abraham and Sarah were both very old by this time, and Sarah was long past the age of having children. So she laughed silently to herself and said, “How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master—my husband—is also so old?” Genesis‬ ‭18‬:‭8‬-‭12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Just another normal hot day on the plains of Canaan. By this time, Abraham had not only built up a sizable wealth with hundreds, maybe thousands of herds of cattle, sheep and possibly camels, he also had a good size army of warriors totaling over 300. Even though he was still a nomad, not owning his own land, he was a respected chief of a large community of families.

As you know, Eastern ancients on the plains or in the cities were extremely hospitable. Strangers were not only welcomed, but fed, housed and protected while they visited. Moses, who wrote Genesis, tells us that three visitors just happened to walk through Abraham’s very large compound. Moses, also identifies one of the visitors with a special title. The story begins with “three men,” then Abraham addresses one as “my Lord,” as a sign of respect. But then one of them is soon addressed as “The Lord.” “Then the Lord said to Abraham, ‘why did Sarah laugh?”

This was no normal day, and no regular visitor. This was a visitation of Jesus, known as a “theophany.” Jesus and two other angels were on their way to Sodom and Gomorrah to check out the rumors of the city’s sin – “So the Lord told Abraham, “I have heard a great outcry from Sodom and Gomorrah, because their sin is so flagrant.” Gen. ‭18‬:‭20‬. Am I to understand that Jesus showed up in the Old Testament to randomly stop by Abraham’s large community to tell him that his 90 year wife was soon to be pregnant? And Jesus does so while on the way to personally, physically checkout sin city? Yep!

This was not, is not normal at all. Sarah, overhearing what the men were talking about, gets an earful when the Lord says to Abraham, “I’ll be back next year and will get to meet your son, your bio-son.” Ya know, the one God promised to Abraham in Genesis 15:4, where his descendants will be more numerable than the stars in the night sky. Remember that? “And Abram believed the Lord, and the Lord counted him as righteous because of his faith.” Gen. 15‬:‭6‬.

So laugh all you want to Sarah, doubt all you want old men and women. God keeps His word! God has big plans, unstoppable plans for the entire planet. Those who believe in Jesus, should start adjusting to the fact that God knows what He is doing. We should, as Abraham originally did, “believe the Lord,” which is seen as righteousness to God. Faith is necessary and pleasing to God. Just for the record, God may in fact get a giggle when we snicker at the impossible. God’s like, look and learn who gets the last laugh!

Prayer

Dad,
You see how fragile our faith is and how weak our belief and trust in you can be. I take it that the lack of faith in all of us came with the whole sin package? It’s frustrating for us too! I want to, we all want to believe, but it is hard to trust. It’s hard to see what cannot be seen and believe what is not apparent. Even when you do miracles and speak your Word, literal truth into us, we forget! Jesus even said, THAT is the world’s sin – we don’t believe in you. We so quickly forget your miracles, forget your promises. We go back to leaning on and living by our own understanding! This is what makes this human journey so frustrating. I identify with the father who’s son had a demon in him. “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!” Help me not to forget your Word nor your promises!

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Who’s my Mother?

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“The son of the slave wife was born in a human attempt to bring about the fulfillment of God’s promise. But the son of the freeborn wife was born as God’s own fulfillment of his promise. These two women serve as an illustration of God’s two covenants. The first woman, Hagar, represents Mount Sinai where people received the law that enslaved them. And now Jerusalem is just like Mount Sinai in Arabia, because she and her children live in slavery to the law. But the other woman, Sarah, represents the heavenly Jerusalem. She is the free woman, and she is our mother.”  Galatians‬ ‭4‬:‭23‬-‭26‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The Apostle Paul uses his lawyer training, his pharisaical training to straighten out some questions regarding the Old Testament law. Paul takes these discussions very serious because it has a direct effect, not just on our salvation, but also on our behavior towards others – believers and nonbelievers alike. The very old story about Sarah and Hagar is a living object lesson to the approach the works versus grace and or perfection and judgment verses freedom and forgiveness. One doesn’t just lead to MORE sin, but also a mindset, a perception that the law gets one closer to God and separates them from the common sinner. This snobbery of perfection is WORSE than the than the clueless lawbreaker.

In our postmodern world, it’s not the direct following of the “big ten” commandments, it’s the casual substitution of other perceived rules that govern the “Hagar Covenant.” The enslaved mentality is wrapped up in Do’s and Don’ts.

The don’t’s
The don’ts are very physically apparent. Don’t dress a certain way. Don’t adorn yourself a certain way. Don’t tattoo yourself. Don’t do things that are clearly harmful to yourself and your family. Things like drinking alcohol, smoking or snorting whatever goes into your lungs – cigarettes, pipes, marijuana, vapes or cocaine. Don’t flaunt addictions like gambling, sex, porn or drugs. And, don’t hang out anywhere where “those” kind of people gather. And don’t curse and tell dirty NSFW jokes.

The Do’s
Do dress nice. Do go to church. Do read your Bible. Do be nice and kind. Do give to the church and the street-corner beggar, Don’t get caught gossiping, lying or cheating on things like taxes or business deals. It’s pretty clear that we have lists of Do’s and Don’ts.

The “doers” and “don’t-ers” know who’s who are are pretty happy being associated with their “people.” Sure, there are plenty of folks who play both sides, popping back and forth uncomfortably trying to have it both ways – do good er some times, don’t do good other times. In Paul’s day it was very clear who was supposed to be the righteous and who was clearly the sinner. Paul’s illustration to the churches in Galatia must have been super eye-opening and frustrating at the same time. He doesn’t compare the Do’s and Don’ts to appearances or un-ending list of behaviors. He says it comes down to faith in one of two ways.

Abraham & Sarah made a decision that became two different and quite oppositional ways to follow God. One, MAKE the promise happen by Hagar. Or two, RECEIVE the promise through Sarah. Two very different paths: One was a human plan, one was a God plan. One led to and still leads to SLAVERY the other led to and leads to FREEDOM. If we choose to live by religious rules and perceived perfection where God owes us salvation because we checked off a list, then this is what we get. We have chosen to forever be slaves to those rules, that ever-changing, non-transformative, transactional, self-motivated and determined righteousness. But if we choose the God plan, and receive the promise, we have to let go of all the natural human expectations on ourselves and others! When we choose the Sarah plan, the promise fulfilled, we will walk in a path of grace, mercy, forgiveness, understanding, wisdom and definitely drop the snobbery, the judgement, the eye-rolls and whispered comments under our breath. We’ll drop the unrealistic, unrelenting expectations of perfection and performance for us and others to prove ourselves worthy or pull ourselves out our muddy puddles of disappointment.

The God plan requires us to shut down our judgments and comparisons to others. It requires us to let God constantly wash our souls of the stench of selfishness and self righteousness. It is not easy! The former pharisee, Paul, reminds us “So, dear brothers and sisters, we are not children of the slave woman; we are children of the free woman.” Whose YOUR spiritual momma, Hagar or Sarah?

Prayer

Dad,
I choose Sarah! I choose your plans for my life and my redemption. I choose freedom. I cannot choose both Hagar and Sarah! And since I choose Sarah, I must renounce judgment and looking down on others who’s stories are unknown to me. I must renounce comparison and replace it with compassion. Thank you for reminding me who is my real mother in faith!