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How to come back home.

Reading Time: 3 minutes

You alone are the Lord. You made the skies and the heavens and all the stars. You made the earth and the seas and everything in them. You preserve them all, and the angels of heaven worship you. “You are the Lord God, who chose Abram and brought him from Ur of the Chaldeans and renamed him Abraham. When he had proved himself faithful, you made a covenant with him to give him and his descendants the land of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Jebusites, and Girgashites. And you have done what you promised, for you are always true to your word. ‭‭Nehemiah‬ ‭9‬:‭6‬-‭8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Nehemiah’s story is so multifaceted: With layers of identity of helplessness, the significance of a difference maker, obedience to God, leadership lessons, and returning to God. The book is rich with story of rebuilding a nation, subterfuge, political betrayal and total humility after returning from a 70 year timeout of captivity in Babylon.

Within this climax of rising from ruin, there are these scenes filled with responsibility and repentance of the people who forgot their end of the covenant that their ancestor (Abraham) made with God. They also forgot God, who promised this rag-tag nomadic people a place of prominence among the nations. Israel, the chosen people of God, had risen and fallen so many times, that it felt like they would never make it. History and the world has always kept an eye on Israel!

In Nehemiah, the people, having done the 500 mile walk of shame, returned to their entire city left in shambles. Their most precious building, personifying God’s own house, had to be restored from rubble. Yet, after finding the lost book of Law of God and reading it, something beautiful began to rise out of the ashes and dust of disappointment – a declaration of who God is and remembering His promise. Boom 💥 – there it is; returning to God is a movement of declaration of who He is, what He has done, and what He has promised.

This is the path for the prodigal who finally realizes their own way is the destiny of destruction! Those who really want to be god of their own life? Fine, take off – leave to find yourself. Run away as far as you can from God. Chase after everything you believe is due you, everything you think God is withholding from you. But when you’ve wandered away and find yourself in the middle of the desert, or the muddy slop of the pig’s pen, or even living in the penthouse surrounded by every luxury. When you’ve found nothing but empty, fake promises of fulfillment and end up staring at your hollow self in the mirror. It is then I pray you find the lost law of God, His eternal Word that has existed for thousands of years and will endure throughout eternity.

It is there that I pray you allow someone like Ezra to call you back to the place you so desperately tried to run from – the presence of God! On that day, my advice, is to do exactly what the people of Israel did on that October 31st day, an ancient all hallow’s eve. Repent and declare God’s supremacy over all things. Remember the promises He made to you before you walked away. The 70 year timeout in Babylon was good for the people because they had completely forgotten their God and His promises. Let it be so with your own timeout, your own wandering or rebellion. Return with all humility and sorrow you bore, along with the pain and suffering you caused in the countless lives that love you. This is how you make your way back home!

Prayer

​Dad,
I never imagined that the faith of those around me when I was young would ever be so fragile, so fickle. I never knew that those who started in their faith may not finish! I know how powerful your love is. I know how hard you pursue our soul, even as the “hound of heaven,” that you never give up on us. I just did not know that friends and family would walk away after experiencing you and knowing the truth. I pray that each and every prodigal would return and come home! I have not given up hope, because I know you will not give up. Amen.

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The apostasies.

Reading Time: 3 minutes

Dear children, the last hour is here. You have heard that the Antichrist is coming, and already many such antichrists have appeared. From this we know that the last hour has come. These people left our churches, but they never really belonged with us; otherwise they would have stayed with us. When they left, it proved that they did not belong with us. ‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭18‬-‭19‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The Apostle John had seen it all, he experienced walking with Jesus, watching him die, then seeing the empty tomb. Jesus had died and resurrected just as he said he would. After seeing him caught up to heaven and hearing his words, John had no doubts – EVERYTHING Jesus said would happen did happen! John must have remembered the words of Jesus, spoken in Matthew’s gospel, ”Jesus told them, “Don’t let anyone mislead you, for many will come in my name, claiming, ‘I am the Messiah.’ They will deceive many. And you will hear of wars and threats of wars, but don’t panic. Yes, these things must take place, but the end won’t follow immediately.” Matthew‬ ‭24‬:‭4‬-‭6‬ ‭NLT‬‬ And also, “Then you will be arrested, persecuted, and killed. You will be hated all over the world because you are my followers. And many will turn away from me and betray and hate each other. And many false prophets will appear and will deceive many people. Sin will be rampant everywhere, and the love of many will grow cold. But the one who endures to the end will be saved. And the Good News about the Kingdom will be preached throughout the whole world, so that all nations will hear it; and then the end will come.” Matthew‬ ‭24‬:‭9‬-‭14‬ ‭NLT‬‬.

John believed what he was seeing was the end of days, but they were not. How many cycles of “end times signs” have come and gone? So many. And yet, the day that Jesus spoke of has yet to come. John’s warning is ultra-true, “many such antichrists have appeared.” People left the churches then, they have left the church today. How many cycles of “church hurt,” or forsaking the assembly has happened? Hundreds! Possibly every generation has experienced a falling away.

John sadly surmises, “they never really belonged with us” 😢. Is the Church doing something wrong? Probably. It is because even though we are the bride of Christ, we are still broken, struggling with sin. But also, is there still an epic battle for the souls of humanity? Absolutely. Each cycle, each battle claims victims along the way. Is this cycle THE “great falling away?” We won’t know, just as John did not know.

Though culture’s path widens, beckoning us with ease and promises of all our desires being fulfilled, Christ’s path is still narrow. To be a follower of Jesus still means, death, denial and enslavement in God’s Kingdom. We are bound to God’s grace, mercy and freedom! The terms have not changed. Do you still belong to Jesus and each other, his Church? Whether the wickedness of mankind or the physical removal of believers before the day of the Lord, our eyes should still fixed on our Savior – Jesus!

Prayer

​Dad,
Since the seventies, I’ve seen plenty of wishes and warnings of end times. I’ve seen some who can’t wait to leave this wicked world. Yet, I’ve also seen those who are brokenhearted for more to come to your saving grace. I’m still waiting for the wayward prodigals to come home. I see the ramped up wickedness coupled with lawlessness and throwing off restraints to do whatever people desire. I just know it all ends poorly, never fulfilling their deepest longings. When I pray, come quickly Lord Jesus, it is not the prayer to snatch me from the planet. It’s the prayer to pour out your Spirit on all flesh, penetrating darkness and deceit to experience true freedom! I wait for that day! I pray for that day. Amen.

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The view on the road back home.

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“When the Lord brought back his exiles to Jerusalem, it was like a dream! We were filled with laughter, and we sang for joy. And the other nations said, “What amazing things the Lord has done for them.” Yes, the Lord has done amazing things for us! What joy!” Psalms‬ ‭126‬:‭1‬-‭3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

What’s it like coming back home or reconciling with family and friends after you’ve left, drifted or stormed off in anger. It’s tough. I have no understanding of Israel’s forced captivity in a foreign country as a disciplinary action from God. They were marched out of their land and into Babylon where they were immigrants for 70 years – that’s a long time! And while they were gone, their beloved homes, city and temple were all ransacked and destroyed.

They only small comparison I have is being given up for adoption at four years old. My world, my home, my toys, my neighborhood friends all gone. I was placed with a new family, in an unfamiliar apartment and never did returned home. All that was left for me was fragments of memories, like an assortment of puzzle pieces that do not fit together to make a picture.

For Israel, the journey back was humbling and difficult. Everything they remembered had to be rebuilt – their homes, their city wall and their temple. Ezra, the priest, convinced them to rebuild God’s house before doing anything else! And, it made sense because it was the neglect of God’s house and His commandments that put them in the generational time-out to begin with.

When things go wrong, it’s hard to figure out this concept still today. Am I being disciplined by God? Is this just life in a broken world? Or, am I being targeted and harassed by the devil? Oh, you didn’t know that God still disciplines either putting us into timeout or allowing it to happen? Sorry to break it to you. God loves us enough to come after us, even if it means putting us into situations that require us to look up and reevaluate our decisions!

This Psalm captures the hope, the joy of not just returning, but the giddiness of rebuilding. Rebuilding a life, a home, a church or a city is certainly difficult, but it beats captivity! It’s a wake up call to remember what freedom is really all about – freedom to do right, not do whatever we want. The Psalmist, Ezra, declares “YES! The Lord as done amazing things for us! What joy!” It’s honest and real after being gone for so long.

Prayer

Dad,
Oh my heart just breaks for those who knew you, loved you and then for so many different reasons, decided to walk out. Whether is was some awful experience in life or the church or just wandering off, looking for something else. It’s still painful for me to watch. So many friends, so many family members who walked away from you. I don’t plan on leaving your presence, even when I’ve been exiled in a holy timeout for my own good. Where would I go? You are the author of life. You have given me so much. I cannot deny nor turn away from that. However, I ask that I do not become the “elder brother” in the prodigal story, comparing my life to others and thinking I need a big party celebrating the fact that I never left. No, help me to always be the father in that story. The one who daily goes out waiting, watching for those who’ve decided to come home!

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How is your family name and legacy doing?

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“The proverbs of Solomon: A wise child brings joy to a father; a foolish child brings grief to a mother.” Proverbs‬ ‭10:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

There are a number of these son to parent proverbs. Modern translations substitute “child” for son, but that undermines the purpose of these writings. If Tim Keller is right, and I believe he is, he says that the proverbs were written as curriculum training for young men. This isn’t a put down on young girls or women in general. It was poignantly written to train boys to become great men – nothing wrong with that, right? We do want our boys to become great men, correct?

Think of this curricula idea being drilled into every Hebrew boy – your decisions effect MORE than just yourself. A constant theme of respect and family responsibility towards their own parents. I was given no such training, no such purpose, no such direction. Yet, even with zero input from my own fathers on how to be man, a husband or a father, I personally learned from God, from Proverbs one of the foundational necessities of life – get wisdom!

By the time Robin and I had children I was able to give regular and constant reminders to all three of our children about this proverb right here – “be wise” and it will bring us ALL joy. Be wise and you will have what is necessary to live a good life, influence every single person you meet and leave a legacy for our family. I didn’t quote the verse to them, I lived it with them. I was adopted, so my birth name is Spear, but when my last name changed at four years old, I grew up understanding that my own adopted father had trashed his family name.

When Christ rescued and redeemed my life, I spent time absorbing the wisdom of God through Proverbs, I instinctively knew my responsibility- clean up the family name and pass it on to my children in good standing. I have worked so very hard to rebuild the Garvin name in every way possible. I wanted it to be morally sound, fiscally sound, socially sound and every bit spiritually sound. I wanted my children to be proud of their father’s name and even more proud of the work God had done to restore that name. Garvin would come to mean, faithful, funny, hopeful, caring, responsible and respectful. I told each one of my children to remember they are a Garvin and to be proud of it!

I know of families who bear the grief of a tarnished name, especially when both parents tried to live godly lives, and raised their children the best way they knew how. There is no shame or judgment towards my friends, I have known them our entire adult lives. But I do know the shadow that their own children have cast on their family reputation.

I also know something else. God’s stories are very long and prayer still works. A momma’s prayer, a daddy’s prayer can move mountains and shake the heavens to bring about change in the hearts of our children. So like the prodigal father who waits, everyday looking for his son to come home, so I know that there can be a “come to their senses” and a desire to return home. Angry words towards and bitter images of our prodigals will not bring them home. However, a godly prayer and prophetically seeing a redeemed image of possibility will yield a huge hug and welcome home party someday. How important is it to raise a child in the wisdom of God? The difference between great joy or great grief in all of our futures!

Prayer:

Dad,
My job, our job is not done even though our children are grown. We still influence them and their decisions. They still need us to speak godly wisdom into their lives. Plus, we now get to focus on our grandchildren and not only reinforce what the parents may say, but put our own special touch of grand wisdom and love into their lives as well. Many a child have rejected a parents advice but still hold to the love of their grandparents. Help us continue to give our family your grace and wisdom to leave a godly legacy!